It’s a choice, not a chance

I saw this photo in one of my friends’ Facebook profile and I totally agree with what this guy said.

Let me share you guys something.

Our relationship started with a “trial” stage. Both of us just came out of toxic relationships and I said “let’s try to be together for six months and if we’re still together by that time, we’ll decided if we’ll be serious”. We just celebrated our 6th anniversary last April 4. We chose to be together.

When I was pregnant with our first child, we both made a lot of wrong choices that are selfish. We broke up for two months after I gave birth, but then I chose to give him another chance.

Like most men, he made a mistake with some girl before and there was a time when I’m ready to let him go. He chose to us, me and our kids, over that girl. We mended our relationship and for the first time, it is a forgive and  forget thing. We chose to start again. 

Finally, me and my husband never really believed in marriage. We don’t even consider it, to be honest. We both think that it’s just a paper and no matter what you do, if your spouse will leave or cheat, nothing can stop them. True, we think getting married is useless but we still chose to, for the sake of our children.

You see, in six years of being together we already  know the worst side of each other. There are a lot of points in our relationship where we can simply walk away but still, we chose to stay and love the person we’re with. 

True enough, relationships last long because two people CHOSE to.

Why is there a sun?

One of the most fascinating experience that I think each parent experienced at one point is having to answer some not-so-easy questions of a toddler. You see, it’s nice to think that from a tiny little baby who’s kicking inside your tummy, your baby’s not so little anymore and she’s starting to wonder more about her surroundings.

As a mom, I already get to answer several questions and most of the time, my answer is “that’s just how it is”, but I’m gonna share something that happened last night.

We’re in bedroom waiting for dinner and we’re watching Fairy Tail (the anime, yes. We’re on Ep130). Erika, our 3-year-old daughter, was hugging Michael that time when she suddenly asked ” Papa, bakit may araw?” (“Papa, why is there a sun?”) Michael looked at me and I just raised my eyebrows. I’m also waiting for his answer. He said “Syempre para may liwanag tayo. Kung walang araw, edi laging gabi, lagi kang tulog nun. Gusto mo ba yun?” (“Of course, so that we can have light. If there’s no sun, it’ll be night time always, you’ll be sleeping all the time. Do you want that?”)  To this, Erika simply answered “Ayoko” (“I don’t like that”) and she buried her head to Michael’s chest again. By the time he’s giving his answer, I’m already laughing silently and when they’re done talking, he throw a pillow straight to my face. It’s the first time that my husband get to answer one of those ” Why” questions and it’s just fun listening to them talk like that.

Moms, what’s your child’s memorable question?

Masakit Magmahal (Love Hurts)

We’re waiting for our dinner and my son keeps on singing this song and I’m surprised with the conversation we had. I’m not sure if he actually have any idea.

Alexis: *singing “Paano Ba Magmahal” by Sarah G.*

Me: Bakit masakit magmahal Alexis? (Why does love hurts, Alexis?)

Alexis: Eh, ganun talaga yun. Kapag nagmahal ka, masasaktan ka.(That’s how it is. If you love, you get hurt)

Me: Hindi ba pwedeng hindi masaktan? (Is it possible not to get hurt?)

Alexis: Hindi! ‘Pag ‘di ka nasaktan, edi ‘di ka nagmahal nun. *sabay kindat* ( No! If you didn’t get hurt, then you didn’t really love *wink*)

…and that is my 4-year-old son.

It made me think for a sec, his words remindedme of some things that are quite true. Ano’ng alam ng batang ‘to? As if he knows anything, but most probably he’s just playing the words from the lyrics.

Here’s the song btw:

For J and K

Kanina lang kami nagkitakita ulit ni Janelle at Krizza. Nakakatuwang makita at makausap sila ulit,  ang sayang maka-catch up sa kanila. 

Si Krizza,  nagma-masterals na.Kahit tinatawanan ko sya kanina,  nakaka-proud kasi talagang ‘diretso’ pa rin yung direksyon ng mga plano nya.  That’s what I always admired about her.  She’s very competitive, determined and focused. Once she’s put her mind into something, she’ll nake sure she’ll have it.  Nakakatuwa talaga. 

Si Janelle, looking forward na makapagtrabaho na sa BGC.  Nakakatuwa kasi the way I see it she’s taking it slowly but surely.  I hope she can take more risks because like what J. K. Rowling said: 

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”

It is OK to fail as long as we’re  learning from it.  Personally, I still have a lot of things that I’d like to risk trying but since I have children,  I cannot  do any of those things for now

Krizza and Janelle, salamat at natuloy din sa wakas!  Sa susunod kasama na natin si Eileen ha? 

I love you girls! 

srsly girls, krlan tayo mgkikitakita ult?

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P. S. : Photo was taken during Krizza’s 18th birthday. Sexy pa kami nyan. 😂

Just (Another) Quick One : Hobbies,  Passion and Being a Mom

I was looking at my Instagram feed when I saw this photo by one of my high school friends. An aspiring photographer who takes above average photos (not that I have high standards) and he,  just like me,  loves using nature as his subject.

I went on looking at his photos when I realized that I used to love taking photos and looking at nature photography.  Now,  I just love looking at them.

I know most parents experience this at one point especially stay-at-home moms like me.  That moment when you suddenly just miss doing those things that you’re terribly passionate about,  like photography for instance. You can feel the passion,  the excitement and the anticipation thinking when you can do the things you used to do. Somehow imagining what you would do and where you’d go to when you get the chance. For a minute,  you’re flying there planning with a little too much bit of excitement.

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Meh Dai

Last December 20, I decided to order a Mei Tai as Christmas gift for Rui. The old carriers the we use are non-ergonomic and he’s always uncomfortable when he stays on it for longer than 30 minutes.

Good thing Nakong is very accomodating and they included our order on the last day of shipping before the holidays so we received it as early as December23.

I’m so excited to try it that we took some action shots right away.

….and some action shots, excuse my messy hair #babywearingph #meitai

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My mom and my husband find it  a bit inconvenient since I need to tie it unlike the ones that we have which we simply need to lock with some snap ons just like this.  (Photos from Lazada)

As a member of Babywearing Philippines, these are some of the things that I learned:

The old one the we have is non-ergonomic and NOT recommended for use.  I know that carriers can be costly (we tried malong before too)  but it’s better to invest on something if it’s for their safety.

“Eh natapos nga sila Alexis at Erika,  ok naman yan” my mom said.  Yes,  they’re fine but if only I have enough funds before, I would’ve buy that sooner.

I am soooo in love with our meitai and soon I’ll post a video on how to use it.

Update: Title updated in lieu of NaKong’s updates about using the right name for baby carriers.



InkTober Day7 (and an emotional mommy post) 

Last night was the most exhausting moment for me as a mom. I felt so tired physically,  emotionally and mentally.  I wanted to leave them even for just a couple of hours ’cause it felt like I need a break.  I actually need a break,  every mom or everyone needs that once in a while.  

Every single day,  all I do was scold them. I try hard to explain why they should not do things.  I am trying really really hard not to spank them because I already did that before but now,  it feels even worse because it’s not my hands that hurt their butt,  it my words that breaks their heart. Right now, I’m trying hard not to cry because of all the guilt. I dont know how long they’ll remember those words and how it will affect them. 

I don’t even know what to do anymore. 

My husband would say logical things on how to handle our kids but moms know that it doesn’t work that way most of the time. He’d say ‘talk to them. they’ll understand you’.  Well,  yes maybe they understand that it’s dangerous but they’d still do it ’cause it’s fun and they won’t believe you ’cause they wasn’t hurt yet. They’ll keep on doing things and when one of them started to cry,  that’s it.  

This thing is soooo fucking exhausting and I badly need a break. 

Please don’t get me wrong,  being a mom or parenting as a whole is rewarding. The hugs and I love yous are wonderful but for, I really need to rest.  Like few hours me time or a quick trip to the mall with my youngest (he’s 5 months and we’re breastfeeding so I can’t leave him). 


I can’t eat ice cream ’cause they’ll bug me to have some and they might end up with tonsilitis again.